Affirmation: I examine the past with an eye on my best future.
I must admit I have a terrible memory when it comes to events of the past. I never remembered much about my childhood. Then my children grew into adulthood and I couldn't remember a great deal of their childhood. It's just not the way my mind works. Oh, attach a significant emotional reaction to something and I can remember instantly. Like, holding my oldest daughter's hand as we walked together to her pre-school. Or, when my youngest crawled into bed with me early in the morning to hug for a while before she went off to school. My son always has a project. He always has had a project and I can clearly remember every one of them because of the excitement he generated as he took them on.
For me, it seems very important to review the past. It's probably why I keep a journal and a little pocket calendar where I write the day's past events. It reminds me of looking in the rear view mirror of the car before changing lanes, or simply to be aware of what's going on around me.
I have a monthly and a yearly practice of asking myself 10 questions that I feel will improve the quality of my life going forward. I gathered these several years ago from a newspaper article by Sharon Randal from Henderson, Nevada.
1. What was the hardest thing I had to do this year?
2. What was the most fun?
3. What were the milestones?
4. What was my biggest accomplishment?
5. What's something I wanted to do but didn't?
6. What was my biggest surprise?
7. What was the best thing I did for another?
8. What was something I worried about that I don't worry about now?
9. What made me proud?
10. Describe a moment I want to remember.
I feel the only reason to review the past, is to find a way to live better in the future. Look it over, learn the lesson and then let it go. The last part may be the hardest lesson of all.