@Home October Retreat

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                                Triangle@Home Monthly Morning Retreat  

October 17th, 2020 9:00-10:00am

*Prepare your space: Find an area where hopefully you will not be disturbed for your quiet time.  Perhaps you want a blanket for yourself (or a teddy bear?). 

*Gather your supplies: Timer, note paper and/or journal, pen.  You may want to bring in one or two inspirational books.

*Create an “altar”: Put a few meaningful items out, include a 

candle.

*Opening Song - Come Holy Ghost or one of your choice.

         (This is a link in case you want to listen to it & sing along) https://youtu.be/V_AKDFsvrPg

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Lyrics: 

Come, Holy Ghost, Creator blest, And in our hearts take up Thy rest;

Come with thy grace and heav'nly aid to fill our hearts which thou hast made,

To fill our hearts which Thou has made.

O Comforter, to thee we cry, Thou heav'nly gift of God most high;

Thou fount of life, and fire of love, And sweet anointing from above,

And sweet anointing from above.

Chorus:

Be not afraid, where you go there I am with you. (2x)

O Holy Ghost, through thee alone, Know we the Father and the Son;

Be this our firm unchanging creed, That thou dost from them both proceed,

That thou dost from them both proceed.

Praise we the Lord, Father and Son, And Holy Spirit with them one;

And may the Son on us bestow all gifts that from the Spirit flow,

All gifts that from the Spirit flow.

Chorus:

Be not afraid, where you go there I am with you. (2x)

*Opening Prayers - The Sign of the Cross/Our Father/Hail Mary/Glory Be or your choice.

*Intention:  This is a reflective, healing time and we ask that it be filled with the love of the Holy Spirit, the care of Mother Mary and the guidance of all our guardian angels.  We are here to learn from one another and to support each other on our journey towards a closer, more intimate relationship with Our Lord.

*Write out a prayer request or a few and add them to your “altar.”

*Reflection - The world is still dealing with the Corona Virus.  Nothing much has changed since March except Covid fatigue has now arrived.  We are faced with daily decisions based on little information about how to take care of ourselves and our families and many are finding it to be very daunting.  How are you doing?  How have you continued to stay connected to God, the Divine, Our Lord?  What has come into your heart and your life during this time of chaos and uncertainty, peace, hope, fear, compassion maybe even gratitude? 

Using your journal write about any insights. (10-15 min.)

Gospel

LK 12:8-12

Jesus said to his disciples: 

 “I tell you,

everyone who acknowledges me before others

the Son of Man will acknowledge before the angels of God.

But whoever denies me before others

will be denied before the angels of God.

“Everyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven,

but the one who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit

will not be forgiven.

When they take you before synagogues and before rulers and authorities,

do not worry about how or what your defense will be

or about what you are to say. 

For the Holy Spirit will teach you at that moment what you should say.”      

        

*Journaling Time - What did you hear God sharing with you?  What do you want to share with God? (10-15 minutes)

*Centering Prayer - 10 to 20 (recommended) minutes of silent time (you decide.)

*Centering Prayer - Guidelines 

1. Sit comfortably.
2. Choose a sacred word on which to focus.
3. Set a timer.
4. Don’t judge, just observe.
5. The phrase that often precedes Centering Prayer is:  I let go of security, affection & control and fully accept this moment exactly as it is.  (Optional)
6. Take a few breaths at the end to return to the present moment and to reflect on the experience.

*Make it Your Own:

Perhaps you have an inspirational book you have been meaning to investigate but you just haven’t had the opportunity.  Now is the time.  If you have some time left before the end of the hour open it and see what other messages the Holy is sending to you.  

You could also use this time to say the Rosary.  Saturday in the Catholic Church is set aside as “Mary’s Day” and the reflection is on the Joyful Mysteries.  

*Closing Prayer - 

Dear God,

Speak gently in my silence.

When the loud outer noises of my surroundings and the loud   inner noises of my fears keep pulling me away from you,

help me to trust that you are still there even when I am unable to   hear you.

Give me ears to listen to your small, soft voice saying: “Come to me, you who are overburdened,

and I will give you rest...

for I am gentle and humble of heart.”

Let that loving voice be my guide. 

Amen

Excerpt from With Open Hands by Henri J.M. Nouwen, ave maria press, 2006

       “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God-what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:1-2

*Sharing a Word Exercise - choose a word from your reading or your quiet time (your sacred word?) and share it on an email to me.  Feel free to share any other thoughts or insights you have gained from this sacred time.  I will send out an email with everyone’s response around Noon today.  

Thank you. 

Jean Costa, MSW, RYT

Certified Spiritual Director 

JeanAnneCosta@gmail.com

Prayer Magic

Affirmation:  I pray unceasingly.  

Do you pray?  How do you pray?  Are your prayers silent or out loud?  Do you only pray when you go to church?  How about before meals?  Maybe you only pray before meals in your home, never out in public?  Maybe your prayers are only in the evening before bedtime, like some of us were trained to do as a child.  Maybe you make up your own words, or maybe you only use the rote prayers of your faith.  As you can see there are many forms of prayers, some might even say their best prayer is when they are on the golf course or watching a football game.  “God, help me get over this water!"  "Lord, please be with our team today."  Some wouldn’t even use the name of God.  Perhaps, their faith won’t allow that or perhaps their faith leads them to only a universal concept like, the Divine or the Holy.  Of course, we also have those people who don’t believe in prayer at all and think it a waste of their time.  This may not be the blog they will want to read.  That’s ok.  I believe they are praying every time they send their energy out into the world with their thoughts, or into their bodies with their intentions.  

As part of my Spiritual Direction training I read, "Ron DelBene’s Breath of Life Series: A Simple Way to Pray (The Jesus Prayer). I don't know why but I didn't expect much of this reading but  I had a list of monthly assignments and this was one of the choices.  It seems I am quite good at mis-judging what may or may not resonate with me and once again I was wrong; wrong, wrong, and wrong!  

If you’ve been following this blog, you already know that I am a great believer in the power of prayer.  I actually pray all day and I have lots of tools to help me with that.  I have all those memorized prayers most Catholics learn as children and several I’ve memorized as an adult.  I have the one I wrote myself that I occasionally use before I journal.  I have the Rosary which I always say as I walk the lake and if not then, during some quiet time in the afternoon or before Mass.  I have Sunday Mass and if I were really disciplined, I’d have daily Mass. Sometimes it’s as simply as doing an Ujayi yoga breath and adding the name of Jesus.  So you see, I’m pretty immersed in a prayer.  

At one point at the Haden SD training, we were handed a picture of a tree and the title was "Contemplative Practices."  There are several branches: stillness, generative, creative, activist, relational, movement and ritual/cyclical.  It would appear according to this diagram that almost any form of activity can fall into a contemplative category as long as one is wholly present to their actions.  I’m sure that’s true but I still feel most of us will benefit from finding a way to silence and stillness rather than trying to focus while on the move.  It’s a busy noisy world out there and "in here" and to take some time and just be, can be life changing.  In fact, it has now been scientifically proven that the part of brain that deals with stress, changes with meditation and we experience less tension and anxiety. 

Ron DelBene’s book was for me like discovering a magic lamp, with a genie inside.  The genie popped out and I was asked to make a wish, only one.  Oh, what was so important to me that I would want to focus on it all the time?  He suggests you find a short phrase that you use as an all-day prayer.  He recommends it be around six words or so.  You then repeat it throughout your entire day.  You can say it at a red light, standing in line, waiting in a doctor’s office, walking to your employment, in the shower.  Anywhere, anytime is the perfect time.  You rub the magic lamp and you actually ask, "God, what prayer would best serve our relationship?"  You take some of that quiet time I just mentioned and you listen.  What phrase comes to mind?  For now, that’s the prayer.  Sure, you can change it.  You can tweak it but for now, own the words that you have been gifted.  Breathe in, deep breath and let them settle into your heart and your spirit.  Give the prayer a few days to take root and the be prepared for when it begins to blossom.  That’s when you’ll know the "genie" has heard your one wish and it is being manifested.  The prayer isn’t for anyone or anything other than yourself.  Selfish, you think?  Remember the Prayer of Saint Francis?  "Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me."  Until we change ourselves to be centered in the gifts of the Holy; love, joy, peace, hope, compassion and generosity, nothing outside of us will ever change.  Let God take up full time residence within, you only need ask, and then throw away that lamp because now the miracle of finding God within will bring about the miracle of revealing God without and I believe life will never again be the same.  

Give it a try.  If you like, write me and share your prayer and anything else that manifests from your newest practice.

"Holy Spirit, fill me with Your pure love."

Please Pray - by Jean Costa

Please pray for me

Please pray for her

Please pray for him

Please pray for them

Of course, I answer

I will, I say

I’ll add you to my list, I write

It’s my honor, I respond

Why, I think?

Will it help, I query? 

For what, I question?

How, I ponder?

Our Father, I begin

Hail Mary, I plead

Holy Spirit, I invite

Angles and guides, I request

I wake with a prayer

I walk in prayer

I sit for prayer 

I fall asleep with prayer 

Am I praying for them?

Am I praying for her?

Am I praying for him?

Am I praying for me?

How do I feel?

Does it make a difference?

Does it soothe the world?

Does it create healing?

But I believe

Yes, I believe

Truly, I believe

Surely. I believe

I pray for her 

I pray for him

I pray for them

I pray for you

I pray for hope

I pray for healing 

I pray for strength 

I pray for love 

Those I know

Those who have asked

Those who have been asked for

Those I have never met

I pray for me

I pray for family & friends

I pray for all the support people in my life

I pray for all my communities

I pray for my church

I pray for my country

I pray for our world leaders

I pray for those who have no one to pray for 

And, I send out those prayers 

I send them with hope and faith

I send them out and let them rest within

Away they go....blessing the earth

And, I trust, that I am that powerful

I trust, I can change the world

I trust, my efforts to love and not to judge

I trust, I am making a difference

No, not on my own but with 

God, the Divine, my Lord, Mother Mary 

With all our angles and guides

I pray my heart will be known 

And I trust my prayers are answered

.

Affirmation:  I pray unceasingly.  

Do you pray?  How do you pray?  Are your prayers silent or out loud?  Do you only pray when you go to church?  How about before meals?  Maybe you only pray before meals in your home, never out in public?  Maybe your prayers are only in the evening before bedtime, like many of us were trained to do as a child.  Maybe you make up your own words, or maybe you only use the rote prayers of your faith.  As you can see there are many forms of prayers, some might even say their best prayer is when they are on the golf course or watching a football game.  “God, help me get over this water!"  "Lord, please be with our team today."  Some wouldn’t even use the name of God.  Perhaps, their faith won’t allow that or perhaps their faith leads them to only a universal concept like, the Divine or the Universe.  Of course, we also have those people who don’t believe in prayer at all and think it a waist their time.  This may not be the blog they will want to read.  That’s ok.  I think they are praying every time they send their energy out into the world with their thoughts, or into their bodies with their intentions.  

Recently, I read, "Ron DelBene’s Breath of Life Series: A Simple Way to Pray (The Jesus Prayer). To tell the truth, I didn’t expect to learn much from this tiny book but I am presently in the midst of training to become a certified spiritual director at the Haden Institute in Hendersonville, NC (I mentioned it In my last blog, Walking the Camino.) and I have a list of monthly assignments.  This was one of the suggested.  As usual, I was wrong; wrong, wrong, and wrong!  

If you’ve been following this blog, you already know I am a prayer warrior.  I pray all day and I have lots of tools to help me with that.  I have all those memorized prayers most Catholics learn as children and several I’ve memorized as an adult.  I have the one I wrote myself that I occasionally use before I journal.  I have the Rosary which I always say as I walk the lake and if not then, during some quiet time in the afternoon.  I have Sunday Mass.  There’s grace and my ujjayi yoga breath to which I add the name of Jesus.  So you see, I’m pretty immersed in a prayer life but I know there is always lots of room for me to improve my relationship with the Lord.  It's my life's primary focus, especially now as I move closer to meeting Him. 
  

In fact at the Haden training this last weekend we were handed a picture of a tree and the title was "Contemplative Practices."  There are several branches: stillness, generative, creative, activist, relational, movement and ritual/cyclical.  It would appear according to this diagram that almost any form of activity can fall into a contemplative category as long as one is wholly present to their actions.  I’m sure that’s true but I still feel most of us will benefit from finding a way to silence and stillness.  It’s a busy noisy world out there and "in here" and to take some time and just be, can be life changing.  In fact, it has now been scientifically proven that the part of brain that deals with stress changes with meditation and we respond with less tension and anxiety. 

Ron DelBrene’s book was for me like discovering a magic lamp, with a genie inside.  The genie popped out and I was asked to make a wish, only one.  Oh, what was so important to me that I would want to focus on it all the time?  Ron suggests you find a short phrase that you use as an all-day prayer.  He recommends it be around six words or so.  You then repeat it throughout your entire day.  You can say it at a red light, standing in line, waiting in a doctor’s office, walking to you employment, in the shower.  Anywhere, anytime is the perfect time.  You "rub the magic lamp" and you actually ask, "God, what prayer would best serve our relationship?"  You take some of that quiet time I just mentioned and you listen.  What phrase comes to mind?  For now, that’s the prayer.  Sure, you can change it.  You can tweek it but for now, own the words that you have been gifted.  Breathe in, deep breath and let them settle into your heart and your spirit.  Give the prayer a few days to take root and then be prepared for when it begins to blossom.  That’s when you’ll know the "genie" has heard your one wish and it is being manifested.  The prayer isn’t for anyone or anything other than yourself.  Selfish, you think?  Remember the Prayer of Saint Francis?  "Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me."  Until we change ourselves to be centered in the gifts of the Sprit; love, joy, peace, hope, compassion and generosity, nothing outside of us will ever change.  Let God take up full time residence within, you only need ask, and then throw away that lamp because now the miracle of finding God within will bring about the miracle of revealing God without and I believe life will never again be the same.  

Give it a try.  If you like, write me and share your prayer and anything else that manifests from your newest practice.

"Holy Spirit, fill me with Your pure love."

What Do You Live For?

Affirmation: Every day I invite God into my life.

In Rediscover Catholicism, Matthew Kelly asks many interesting questions and he presents many topics for contemplation.  One of the questions is "What do you live for?" He tells the story of Abraham Lincoln calling in a soldier and asking the soldier to deliver an important message.  The soldier tells Lincoln, "Sir, I would die for our cause."  Lincoln says, "Son, I have thousands of men who will die for our cause.  What I need is one man who will live for it."  I love that story.  It made me question myself.  What do I live for?  Where do I spend my time, talent and treasure? 

Rediscover Catholicism is a three hundred page book which is distributed for free.  I received it at my church in Cary N.C., St Michael the Archangel.  I think we were encouraged to give it to someone who has "fallen away" from the church but I felt I could use something to reenergize my faith and so I brought it home and promptly put it on my shelf.  There it sat for several months along with a whole stack of other "mean to read" books.  Do you have any like that? 

One day a fairly new friend and I were discussing the Church and she began to tell me about Matthew Kelly and his book, The Dynamic Catholic.  She's seems more sure of our Church than I and I was interested in what she had to share and quite taken with her enthusiasm for this author and his passion.  I then realized his book was sitting right there with us.  It felt like I was being directed by Spirit, by God, to read this book.  I began using it as a prelude to my journaling in the morning, as I like to do with different reading material.  My intention is to read something inspirational at night, I have recently been focusing on the New Testament, and something motivational in the morning.  For the last few weeks, I've been reading Rediscover Catholicism.

It's very easy to focus on the faults of the Catholic Church.  It's no different than focusing on the faults of the world, the government, any organization, friends or family.  It's very easy to sink to the level of non constructive criticism.  It's easier to go to a negative place than to a positive one and the Church is a magnet for that criticism.  It has had many serious problems as an organization, devastating behavior that cannot be justified. When I refer to the Church, I am referring to the hierarchy.  The patriarchal leaders who determine the philosophy and tenor of Catholicism. Even with all its blemishes the Catholic faith has provided me with the tools to help me deepen my faith and to grow in my relationship with God.  Matthew Kelly's book has helped me, my Small Christian Community study group, another study group called the Women of Grace and recently a few new friends.

One of the concepts presented in the book The Celestine Prophesy by James Redfield is that there are no coincidences; everything that happens is "supposed" to happen.  We are always in exactly the place and time within which we are created to be.  The choice of what we do and how we choose to perceive the situation, however, at that moment is completely ours.  One  of my daily prayers is "Come Holy Spirit fill the heart of Your faithful.  Enkindle in me the fire of Your love." It warms my soul to say that prayer.  It truly is the desire of my heart.  I want to live a Christ centered life of love and forgiveness and service and when I say that prayer and invite God to fill me with Divine Presence, I feel hopeful.  "Ask and you shall receive, knock and it will be opened."  In my quest to unite my will to the will of God I have been drawn to activities and people who are guiding me, inspiring me.  I once had a friend who always seemed to be running into people, even strangers, who needed her help.  I asked her about her propensity towards this mission and she told me she asked God everyday to send her people she could help.  It seems so simple, doesn't it, if we can just remember to ask?  I'm a great believer in answered prayer.

My faith is growing.  My relationship with my God is becoming stronger.  Thank heavens because it makes my life richer and more peaceful.  I find more and more opportunities to learn about my faith and to sink deeper and deeper into its comfort.  Looking back on the last year alone, I can see several invitations I've said "yes" to which have led me to a more appreciative attitude towards Catholicism.  The strongest influence has been the newer friends who have entered my life and have chosen to reach out to me and include me in their lives.  It's been a tremendous joy, an honor and a privilege to become their friend.  Each presents their faith in a different but vibrant, loving way and I am inspired by it.  Recently, one of the women said, "I love my Church."  I love my Church!  It was wonderful to hear someone say that.  I too am guilty of focusing on the faults and not the beauty of my faith.  "I love my Church."  I'm not there yet but perhaps with my daily prayer the Holy Spirit will lead me to fall in love with it too.  I know I've fallen in love with the men and women of my church who are in my life and who with each encounter lead me into that rich, deep relationship with God I so desperately desire.