Affirmation: Because of my relationship with my Lord Jesus Christ, I let go of fear and anxiety and fully trust in His loving care for me
Have you heard the story about the farmer who lived in ancient times? He had a lovely farm and one son and one horse. One day they found the gate to the corral open and the horse was missing. All his friends and neighbors gathered around and said “Oh no, you poor man. You’ve lost your only horse, how terrible!” He answered, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” His son then borrowed a horse and went to look for their missing animal. In a while, his father looked up and saw his son coming towards him riding the missing horse and behind him was a whole heard of horses. He opened the gate and all the horses ran into the corral. All his friends and neighbors gathered around and said “Oh, you lucky man. You’ve not only found your horse. You now have a whole heard of horses, how wonderful!” He answered, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” His son began taming the wild horses and one day he fell off and broke his leg. All his friends and neighbors gathered around and said “Oh no, you poor man. Your only son has broken his leg and now he cannot help you with all the work on your farm, how terrible!” He answered, “Maybe yes, maybe no.” While his son was recuperating, the local war lord and his men showed up. They were conscripting all the eligible young men to fight in their war. Of course, they could not take the farmer’s son because of his broken leg. Once again, all his friends and neighbors gathered around and said “Oh, you lucky man. Your only son has been saved from fighting for the local war lord, how wonderful!” I’m not going to tell you his answer. I think you already know it.
How many times have you had something happen to you and you judged the quality of the experience as good or bad and then, later, sometimes much later, you saw it in a different light and realized you didn’t have a clue at the time it occurred about how it was going to affect your life? It’s so easy to fall into the pit of despair, anxiety and depression. According to quantum physics negative energy resonates at a lower level than positive energy. That makes it easier for us to connect with it and more difficult to tap into the positive. We have to work harder to find the positive. I’m sure you have many examples of events that created openings into opportunities of which you never dreamed. In our family alone, we have experienced job loss that led to a new and better opportunity. We’ve witnessed the sad disillusionment of a marriage that later led to a new, healthier, happier family unit. We’ve seen so much suffering and struggle that in time brought reward and accomplishment. Of course, that’s not always true. But, doesn’t it bring comfort that it can work out for the better?
That’s not to say we shouldn’t allow ourselves our feelings. Not only should we allow them, we need to experience them. There is no short cut through grief; there is only the direct path through it. If you try to skirt around it, it will catch up with you when you least expect it. And, grief comes from many different types of loses, not just from death. One can experience grief over the loss of a dream; perhaps the dream of a perfect marriage, a perfect job, what one thought a perfect career should look like. One can experience grief over the loss of health, money, youth and even less recognized events like that of thinning hair or a thickening middle. It’s all part of our lives. It’s important to acknowledge how we feel about loss and then move towards recovery. But, it’s also important to realize nothing is stagnant. Life is always changing and whatever is causing you distress will change too and it might just be the one thing to open a door to something marvelous. Why not simply watch and see how it works itself out?
We are only capable of seeing a small part of the picture. Only God can see the big picture. The question is can you trust enough to believe He/She has your best interest at heart; that that which was meant for your harm, God will use for your good? Garth Brooks has a country song entitled “Thank God for Unanswered Prayer.” In it he tells the story of a man who meets an old flame, the one woman he prayed to God to make his wife. It didn’t work out and now as he walks away from her, he realizes how lucky he was. He’s married to the real love of his life and so he remembers to “thank God for unanswered prayer.” It’s another example of loss and grief and an experience that led to something better. I’m sure he couldn’t see it when it happened. He had to wait to recognize the blessing that came from the breakup with his first love.
For me, this is why I practice my faith. I don’t want it to be all about life after death. I want to live this life with the trust that God really does want only my best and that if I practice that, if I trust, all will be well. It may not be the way I expected. It may not be anything like what I had asked for but if I believe that whatever is happening is exactly what should be happening, think of the peace I experience. I must confess it’s not an easy process, simple maybe, but not easy. It takes work. It takes staying connected to the Divine at every possible moment. I have a wonderful meditation tape by Belleruth Naparstak. At one point in the tape she speaks about all the angels and guides who are surrounding the listener and then as they begin to fade away they say, “Remember, we are always with you. It is you who comes and goes.” What comfort that brings me. If I can stay focused, if I choose to stay in the presence of God, God will always be with me. That’s my choice; that’s my meditation; to remain in the presence of God and with all my angels and helpers as often as possible and to trust in their divine protection. Then, when faced with a challenging situation instead of labeling it ‘good or bad, lucky or unlucky” I can simply watch it and think “maybe yes, maybe no.”