Affirmation: I discern well between those actions that empower me versus those that enable me and direct my energies towards the former.
What are you leaving your family when you die? Have you made out a will? Have you written down who will get the silver, the house, and the many treasures you’ve collected over the years? When we moved several years ago, we had an attic and in that attic were many treasures I was sure the “children” would one day want. I had saved their baby furniture. All three children used the same cradle and the same baby carriage. All three children used the same layette set to come home from the hospital. We also had a huge doll house that my son and I had built. You know the kind; the kind that has a shingled roof and into which people put tiny furniture and lights and decorations. It took us months to glue it all together. We did it on our dining room table. These are just a few of the treasure we had saved over the years. Now, it was time to pass them onto the people we thought would want them. Have you guessed their response? They had no desire to own these items. The baby furniture was outdated and not considered safe any longer. The doll house was just too big for their tiny apartments or small homes. The layette may have had a lot of sentimental meaning for me but they could have cared less about the outfit they wore home from the hospital. Wow! What a learning experience. All those years of accumulating stuff, caring for stuff and now getting rid of that stuff. What else have I, we, been collecting that no one is interested in?
But, there must be something my family, my children and my grandchildren would like to have. There must be something that I can leave them so they will remember me. Perhaps the best I can leave them is what life lessons I have learned over these many generations. What are they? What are the most important things I have learned that I can leave for posterity? What words do I want to use? What sentiments do I want to write down? What would your shared life lessons look like?
This is my “ethical will”, I write: Love-love yourself and love others. It’s our first responsibility-our #1 job. Look for, discover and grow a belief in a Higher Power. Find a way to trust that you can tap into God’s love and concern for you as an individual. Know you are exactly where you are supposed to be at any given moment; practice being in the moment, being in the present. Write down your priorities; use them to guide you in all your decisions-stay true to them and to yourself. Write down your dreams. There’s power in putting them on paper, energy is born and without struggle they will be manifested. We are always manifesting, beware of your words and thoughts. Focus on joy. Focus on compassion and gratitude. Find a way to see the blessings and benefits in everything that happens to you in life. Say thank you, thank you, thank you. Forgive, Forgive, Forgive-yourself and all others. Smile, Laugh, Play & Dance!!
What does your “ethical will” look like? Give it some thought and write it out. It’s small. It takes up very little space. You won’t need an attic for it, just a drawer some place and it’s a gift that will benefit them far greater than any piece of old clothing or furniture.